So I'm gonna stick up for myself a little bit here.
Even if some of these notes are me trying to find my way back to you somehow, the fact is, you did some hurtful things, and I need to write that down, too.
I was also mean, afterwards, yes, and I'm sorry about that, full stop.
But.
It's still not okay to go dark on people for days at a time, especially after you make specific plans to meet, or call, or text.
That truly is a hard boundary for just about anyone, mainly because "talk later, sry, rough day" only takes a few seconds to type.
I get that being a solo parent is insanely hard, and I get that some of this was anxiety related for you, and I want to give that the empathy and understanding that it deserves.
But I did give you lots of grace over going dark, more than once, and I did my damnedest not to take being stood up personally. I even tried to make it all into a joke at my expense, just ask that big plush orca, or Pedro, or Steve from Support.
But it's really hard not to take it all personally, because... Those silences feel personal. Of course they do.
Super Not Cool, even, if I may be so bold.
It was also Super Not Cool to end things the way you did, with no explanation at all of what you were thinking or feeling. That felt the opposite of personal, actually.
Which was, to say it one last time, Super Not Cool.